Will Your Relationship Have a Short Shelf-Life? How to Tell

5/26/2018 - Associate Professor of Psychology Paul Eastwick at Psychology Today.

Whether you’re hoping to heal conflict in your relationship; or if things are going well and you want to sustain your good connection on into the future, you know that doing either is complicated. To establish and sustain a romantic and sexual relationship is a challenge in many ways: Understanding each other on a deep, intimate level; fostering honest communication; growing your intimacy. All are difficult, especially in today’s world of multiple demands, everyday stress and responsibilities.  Paradoxically, the most unlikely looking relationships often prove to be the most sustaining. And those that appear made in heaven often dissolve, to the consternation of friends and family.  Why is this?

A study from the University of California at Davis, described here, found that long-term and short-term relationships look the same initially, but "Long-term and short-term trajectories typically pull apart after you've known someone for weeks or months," said lead author Paul Eastwick.(link is external)  "In the beginning, there is no strong evidence that people can tell whether a given relationship will be long-term and serious or short-term and casual."

 

Read the full story at Psychology Today.

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